Kindness, virtue, heavy words that define human beings; they don’t mean shit. Sorry for the language, but it just shows how much I hate those pseudo qualities of a person. People who don’t follow this are recognized as ‘animals’. Why?

I mean, even if you don’t show whatever people want to be showed, you won’t stop being human, figuratively. Of course, if you follow that path your social standing will drop like a hundred kg bowling ball right to the ground. But there is a catch, there is always a catch. What people say and what people do are as different as Gandhi and Hitler. I talked to many people about what they will do if a person betrays them (mostly my friends) and of course they said that they will give that guy a second chance. But what I did after that was regrettable, and after some practical tests I came to the conclusion that not everyone said what they really want to. As it is depicted by this chart.

Of course, human behavior is something that can be both silly and unpredictable. Science has tried a lot to determine why this happens, and they say that some part of the brain does something and all that yada-yada-yada. But we don’t want to hear that, do we? We want to hear what can we do about it. How to think what the other person is thinking. What to do. What to say. And also take into the fact that we don’t want any philosophical crap, and a simple solution. Well according to me the answer is neither simple nor difficult. It is all experience. And I’m not talking about experience in real life only, I will also mention experience in media.

The media I’m referring to is vast and I mean immensely large. I’m talking about movies, shows, sit-coms, talk shows, dramas, animes, comics, you name it. You must be thinking “this guy is crazy” or some may even say “I understand what he is saying”. But after 10 years of age, I have been a crazy fan of literally every show and movie there is. But again, even if you have that “type” of experience, it doesn’t matter. Real world experience is obviously more important, and you can’t compare that to the fantasy world that you dream of (I’m looking at you, introverts). But pondering upon it, you may realize that if you compare human behavior between fiction and real life, there is not much big of a difference. They all feel hate, love, sadness, happiness and many other things. But every piece of media is directed or made by some different person, who have different experience and opinions on human nature which is depicted in their work. So watching these episodes and movies show how the makers think of the world. And I repeat, this implies to every piece of media. Experience in this field can be very beneficial, but I know people who have taken some time in realizing the difference, including me. I proclaimed myself as a “therapist” in 8th grade, and oh, was I so far off. No matter, I still think I gave some decent advice. I have had a lot of fun in watching many shows but one that I think shows true human nature is a show called “The Mentalist”. Not regarding that it is a murder/mystery show, it gives a very nice description of human behavior and how people can be defined in two ways- personality and character. You see, there is a big gap between these two words, personality is defined when a person is in the presence of other people. Character is the ‘personality’ of that person when he/she is alone. You may have a strong personality but that may not hold true for your character. Any smart person or therapist tap into that character to truly understand you.

You may think how all this is related to god. It’s not. It’s rather a defect that I think is not in the full understanding of god. Cause if he did have a more clearer picture of our character, the world should have been a better place a long time ago. But again, even science does not know how to control that. We are all persons of different and unique characters , but in some way or another, we are always influenced by a person, whether he/she is fictional or real. So feel good about yourself in every way possible, because you are you, nothing will change that.